Saturday, April 12, 2025

Chacun voit midi à sa porte

Chacun voit midi à sa porte (French) - "Each one sees noon to his own door."

Because at the end of the day, they perceive things from their own point of view and evaluate things based on their own personal criteria and interest.

14th March, Friday - Syima's wedding.
I came, I saw and I went off. Am I happy for her? Definitely. Do I care about her? As a friend, nothing more and nothing less. 

I am drawing the lines and setting my boundaries. Let's just say, part of me feels that I shouldn't have known the truth but part of me feels better at knowing the truth. And we shall just maintain it as it is.

24th March, Monday - Salary negotiation with CFO.
Well, surprisingly there was no negotiation to be done. Based on the conversations that I had with my colleagues, we could opt for either a bonus with no increment, an increment with no bonus or split the amount into increment and bonus. After a few calculations and a conversation with myself, my target was an increment with no bonus. 

After my discussion with my CFO and he put out the offer, I was surprised that he actually hit my target. I was not expecting a 10% increment and I was expecting more than 5% increment. So when I saw that the numbers was within what I expected, I decided to just agree to it. Let's be honest, this is my first time negotiating for an increment. 6.5 years in NHB, my increment has never exceeded $150, and 2 years during AIA, my increment was very pathetic. 

Also, I am trying to give my CFO a nice impression of myself. I mean, this year I agree to what they offered me but next year, I know fully well that I can ask for more which will be in-line with my target for 2026 increment and also I feel that it will be well within their budget. We shall see how next year. In Shaa' Allah.

28th March, Friday - Iftar session.
This is my 3rd time having iftar with Aidah & Haikal. Like I stopped having iftar with my other group of friends - Azieera, Dzaki & Syima, on the basis that Azieera, like me, is just lazy to schedule an iftar session. We get that Syima does not want to miss terawih, so the 2 of us just silently agreed not to arranged for one.

So basically, my annual iftar is with Aidah, Haikal, Nazron & Netty. It shall be this way until Nazron & Netty have kids. I guess iftar with them is hassle-free, Aidah's only requirement is buffet and Nazron's requirement is to try to get the one-for-one pricing. 

As usual, it is always fun to catch up with them. I just meet up with Aidah & Haikal about 3 to 4 times a year, and we update each other about pretty much everything under the sun with our lives.

Then, it was Hari Raya.

31st March, Monday - Hari Raya celebration plus Mami Tam's birthday celebration.
1st April, Tuesday - Pak Ngah and his sons, Raihan and Rezki, visited the house.
5th April, Saturday - Pak Busu and family & Cik Sham and his son, Zikri, visited the house.
12th April, Saturday - Pak Busu and family, Abang Boy and family + Kak Sue, Abang Rehjal and family & Kak Long and family, visited the house.

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I'm tired. I'm mentally tired, which affects me physically, emotionally and honestly, spiritually. I'm trying my best not to make my thoughts affect myself. I need to start taking small steps all over again.

In Shaa' Allah, everything will be fine.

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